I’ve been noticing an inner distinction these days with layers and levels within the ME & WE dance. Hearing calls to raise one’s thinking, to stand in a new level of being and consideration of my doing has been just part of the new lexicon of conversation for "me in the we" I am engaging with.
Systems by their very nature have structure and order. They have many layers (and some might describe levels) to their representation in our day to day experience. Often described as having a micro, meso and macro level of expression. There is a powerful model that set’s a foundation often in my life & work with other(s). It is a model from the WEL-Systems® body of knowledge called Predictable Structure of Thought. This model has evolved the work of the original model which was developed by Robert Dilts and Todd Epstein and which was, in turn, based on the work of anthropologist Gregory Bateson and philosopher Bertrand Russel's model of Logical Levels.
Adding in a critical level of consideration, called choice, this version offers a powerful new consideration of empowerment in how we’re relating to life.
As a CODE Model™Coach, this frame supports inquiry for consciously engaging spirit in tissue as a holistic co-creator with life. The “levels” map to the energetic centers in motion in our mind-body complex, called chakras. Birthing the CODE Model™
The tricky thing with models as a way to organize our thinking and consideration, is inevitably there can be an underlying positioning of getting from “here to there.” This is often how (I know in my own journey) the perspective of a destination in personal growth gets locked in.
How many times have you said / heard, it’s about the journey, not the destination?
This resonates with me each and every time I hear it and say it. There is a flow with this view of growth and evolution (versus a reward/punishment frame which permeates our current hierarchy design of systems). Get it right, accomplish it well and you’ll be rewarded. Get it wrong, don’t do well and you’ll be punished. I am not saying our intent ought not to be the VERY BEST we can each be in any given moment. However, some days, ME/WE fail.
ME/WE miss the mark. This experience can feel like falling asleep at the proverbial wheel of life.
What if this experience is but a deeper layer of learning?
Rather than being at the "wrong" level?
The good news for those who choose to embark on their journey of living fuller, intentional lives, is we first develop the capacity of awareness. The ability to notice. The willingness to look at ourSelves first in the dance of “ME & WE”. Doesn’t mean we always choose this, but we’ve got it. May take an hour, days, months or possibly years to see what one moment offered us as an opportunity to grow with as an empowered co-creator. It does come.
What is possible if we embraced Models as "Mall Maps" versus "Driving Directions" to a Destination
Often models are positioned in a ladder or pyramid. When in “R”eality, they’re essential just different expressions of the same thing.
It's helpful to notice that. To notice as we're noticing our "level of thinking", we honour that wisdom. Inviting curiosity and compassion to meet the moment.
Our thinking, our minds, our rational, logical expression likes to sort and organize information. It is reflective of our meaning making system. It is deeply helpful in particular as we move from the inside out in conversation as the WE. Models are a powerful “mall map” to support sharing information and offering new perspectives.
Underneath, if left implicit, there can be a felt sense of where I stand today isn’t at the "level" I ought to be. Underneath this is a sense of lack of gap.
Yes, certainty gives clarity and basic sense of order and safety.
Having said that, it is helpful to remember our context. Life is messy and organic. Nature teaches us this each and every day. There are impersonal laws that govern the natural world. We often forget they too govern our inner world.
And our grasp (my grasp:) for certainty is often a way I numb a critical layer of my expression, my vulnerability.
“Vulnerability is not weakness, and the uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure we face every day are not optional. Our only choice is a question of engagement. Our willingness to own and engage with our vulnerability determines the depth of our courage and the clarity of our purpose; the level to which we protect ourselves from being vulnerable is a measure of our fear and disconnection.” (Brene Brown, Daring Greatly)
Returning to the model: Predictable Structure of Thought. Consider this "mall map" in supporting you to identify where you are in any given moment. It's but a reflection of where thinking is at in any given moment.
A key orientation with this model is a view that in each and every level resides each and every level. This resonates for me when I consider the nature of systems and fractals.
“A fractal is a never-ending pattern. Fractals are infinitely complex patterns that are self-similar across different scales. They are created by repeating a simple process over and over in an ongoing feedback loop. Driven by recursion, fractals are images of dynamic systems – the pictures of Chaos. Geometrically, they exist in between our familiar dimensions. Fractal patterns are extremely familiar, since nature is full of fractals.” (https://fractalfoundation.org).
As I begin to deepen my curiosity around choosing to engage the notion of layers as an expression of the organizing properties of systems (of which we are as ME & WE), space opens up, expands more into the textures, the qualities, the inherent wisdom of the awareness of now and considering “models” to support my process of growth.
Today, this inquiry for ME, feels like a magical invitation.
If you work with models with levels in your current journey of growth and the work you’re sharing with the world, consider what might open up for you if you were to relax into your dance of layers.